Rules for dating a chinese girl
We asked her about yellow fever, bad first impressions and the best place to take a girl out on a date in Beijing. There are two dating scenes: expat dating and local dating. The way the locals treat the Fuwuyuan is awful, People beating the waitress because of 20 RMB, spitting, throwing chairs and cups! Where's the romance, the love if it's just about numbers?
I call expat dating in Beijing “Summer Camp.” Everyone has an expiration date, but while they’re here, they want to make the most of it. I have never seen anything like that before, not in the States, not in Europe, not in Korea and Japan, but here! I have to wonder what exactly you spend your time doing splitting it between NYC and BJ.
Chinese young people often feel like they don’t have the time to “play the field” that their Western counterparts are afforded by society.
This is a big part of why dating is often taken so seriously.Or in other words, you sometimes have to put down the organic quinoa and just buy a bag of white rice. The difference is that in China, a commitment is expected. Locals here don’t have to go through the awkward conversation of “defining their relationship” and using the word “exclusive.” If the basic requirements are met and they go on a few dates, a commitment is already established. Speed dating is a great way to practice your conversational skills and bring out the “interesting” in anyone. It’s just so classless and disrespectful, it would have me wondering how much of a dick they could be to me. Also, I think articles like "Heartbreak," "Stages of Attraction" and "Rejection" simplify the guesswork that we drive ourselves crazy over. I'd be curious to know how dating in Beijing is different than other countries..France, or Sweden.But in the US, even if you’ve already met the parents and attended the best friend’s wedding, you’re still not in a committed relationship until it is verbally awarded to you. Some people go into dating with a list of their “requirements.” People obviously make these lists based on their previous experiences. What’s the best/strangest place for dates around here? I also have some fool-proof pick-up strategies but I’ll leave the guys to find those for themselves. If their child’s significant other doesn’t meet with the parents’ approval, continuing the relationship will be very difficult.That’s why if you’re dating someone who is Chinese, it’s very important you make a good first impression with the parents!