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How many of us have searched in vain for a Kickstarter project devoted to this injustice? If they're single, it's certainly not their fault. As my friend Hayley, 24, put it: "Turns out men have feelings about work/family that are kind of like women's! Men (gay and straight) want to have it all, and they too are having a hard time with it. But my issue is that the terms of the discussion are vastly different when it's the men who are single. Pundits and relationship experts love to point out all the things these beleaguered spinsters are doing wrong.Last week, America was alerted to an alarming trend—successful men who are having a difficult time finding worthy partners to settle down with. Sure, they're wealthy (the story makes note of hobnobbing with models, having homes in both Miami in New York, employment at international banks), and they could get laid any time, which the article is also at pains to point out—but nevertheless they yearn. Number one among them is, of course, focusing too much on career—but being too picky, having the wrong job, and not going to the right college were among other lady mistakes listed in a recent the date."Meet the New York Bachelors Who Yearn for Something More," the Save the NYBWYFSM! But older single men who are worried about finding partners don't seem to have done anything wrong.There's the awkward silence when you find the young wealthy jetsetter you met online is anything but, the blind dates with all the "nice young men" your mom knows, and the realization that you may be better off with a DVR and a couple of cats than you would be with any one of the people you've gone out with recently.Dating can be especially hard for those professionals who work long hours to make big money and move up the career ladder.As a result, she knows what she’s saying, even if her advice is not always pleasant to hear. Please don’t forget to like, share and comment on the video! Please watch the video and add your thoughts in the comments section below.
Now, as we reach our 50s and 60s, the situation is somewhat more complicated.
Single men in their 60s are looking for a woman who is feminine and is willing to help them feel like a man.
Many women, including myself, spent most of their lives competing with men – at work, in social situations and even at home.
Perhaps the NYBWYFSM conversation is a worthy correction to the many scare-mongering headlines over the years about the plight of single women.
If they've been slow to step up to the commitment line, according to the piece, it's been for all the right reasons: "Aside from taking pleasure in the feeling of moving untethered through the years, they may have wanted to make sure their careers were on track before starting a family during a rocky economic period." It sounds so laudable to be choosy, put career first for a while, and then decide to settle down. Not as intense though, more like a deep whiskey-tinged sigh."Honestly, it can be hard to have much sympathy for the NYBWYFSM at all.